My co-conspirator and I welcome you to the inaugural post of our blog. The genesis for this blog came from our shared & separate experiences surrounding being gay & polyamorous in the Bay Area. Many a conversation has been held between us at 4 am, where we’ve discussed the joys & struggles our relationships bring. These conversations have brought us just as many questions as they have insights, because the simple truth is we don’t have all the answers.  However, rather than mull these epiphanies over in the relative silence between the two of us, we thought, just maybe, we could open it up to a broader audience. After all, in this crazy city of sex parties and intertwined relationships, we can’t be the only ones trying to navigate a poly life along with the gym memberships and constantly refreshing Grindr? …Right?

And so here were are starting a blog. It’s hard to say where this blog may lead, most of my ideas are only half baked at best, but I can tell you what I’m hoping for in opening myself to the world at large. I hope others can find solace in knowing they’re not alone. I hope others can learn from my mistakes (and they are mine. The only mistake my co-conspirator has ever made was agreeing to do this blog with me, and for that I am deeply sorry). I hope it can start a dialouge around being poly & gay, because I think one is needed. I’m sure other platforms exist, but I have yet to find them, and if they do, well now there’s one more upon which to build our foundation. I will let my co-conspirator speak for himself, but these are the things I hope to come out of this adventure. And it is an adventure, there’s highs and lows, and quite a few climaxes (simultaneously, if you’re lucky). 

There are a few things I would ask of our audience, before we get started, some house rules if you will:

  1. ) Keep an open mind. Our lifestyle may not be for everyone & that’s ok, but we can all stand to learn something from one another and this is a perfect opportunity.
  2. ) Be respectful. I’ve already admitted we don’t know everything, nor do we purport to, so feel free to disagree, but do so respectfully. 
  3. ) Engage. This is just as much about starting a dialogue as it is about us face planting on a public platform for your enjoyment. So please, chime in.

Now with all the niceties and house rules out of the way I once again welcome you to our world. A world of happiness, heart breaks and a mess of spelling errors.  If you should choose to step into our world, even for a brief moment, I promise you, you will be anything but bored. Shall we begin?